the highest-leverage 30 seconds you spend ~12% → ~45% reply rate

Say something she can answer

Three moves, in order: name one specific thing from her profile, add your own take, then ask one open question. That structure is worth about +50% on reply rate — it's the one thing every credible dataset agrees on.

Don't send a generated one verbatim if it doesn't sound like you. The structure is what works; the words have to be yours or she'll clock it.

The measured failure modes — the linter above flags these automatically
  • "Hey" / "Hi" / "How's your day?" — ~12% reply rate, 84% chance of being ignored. They hand her the entire job.
  • Looks-only compliments ("you're gorgeous") — under 20%. She has a mirror. You're telling her you read one photo.
  • Sexual openers — response rate collapses, block rate ~28%. Gets screenshotted and sent to her group chat.
  • Stacked questions — three questions reads like a job application. One question, one answer.
  • The wall of text — two paragraphs, no question at the end, means she has nothing to reply to.
  • Sloppy spelling — free lift available. Spellcheck exists. Use it.
< 24h
send it inside 24 hours of matching. After 24h reply odds halve. After 72h they're down ~80%.
6–10pm
her local time, Tue–Thu. Sundays are the worst day by about 22%.
+30%
lift from a GIF in the first message on Tinder. Worth more than any extra sentence you could write.

"Six hours of no response" is where a man's reply likelihood drops ~25%; for women it barely moves. Meaning: you carry the follow-up in this dynamic, so carry it early rather than late.

Template library

Structures with a slot to fill. Every bracketed bit must be replaced with something genuinely from her profile — a template sent unchanged is the thing this whole page exists to prevent.